The 3 things your children need most during your divorce
As a single parent, we try so hard to provide for and support our children, especially when it comes to our divorce. The pressure of trying to get it all right for our kids and be the perfect mum whilst being crippled by anxiety and sadness surrounding our divorce is a whole new level of mum guilt and overwhelm. The good news is, you don’t need to be the unrealistic vision of a super-mum that you aspire to be, you just need to be a separated mum who cares, and if you are reading this, I know you are a mum who cares As a therapist and separated mother who’s been on the same journey, I want to help you become the best mum I know you can be. That’s why, here and now, I want to share with you the 3 things your children need most during your divorce. You’ve got this!
The 3 things your children need most...
Most of us enter single motherhood lacking the crucial tools and resources for single parents to not only support their children, but themselves too - no one has ever given us training on how to do this yet our children's well-being relies on us getting it right! So what does getting it right actually look like!? We imagine what the perfect mother should be and do, leading us to feel overwhelmed and anxious as we take on all that responsibility. Here are the 3 main things your children need from you.
Your time...
Nothing tells a child that they are loved and secure more than a parent's time. Giving our children this one priceless thing will make them feel valued, and important, and build their self-esteem and self-worth.
Your love…
Although divorce brings many changes, remind them that your love will not and it's unconditional. Tell your children that you love them, that you’re proud of them, and that you’re so grateful to be their mother. Sometimes, even the smallest expressions of love can go a long way in helping your children feel secure and thrive beyond divorce.
For you to healthily process your divorce so you can help your children to do the same…
Finally, your children need you to heal and process your divorce. This doesn’t have to happen overnight, it is a journey. Don’t rush yourself, but make sure it is a journey you go on, so you can support your children in going through their own healing journey.
From one separated mum to another, you’ve got this!
As a separated mother and therapist who’s overcome the same journey, my goal is to help struggling single mums who have or are separated stop feeling anxious over their children’s well-being. You can check out how to work with me and find more resources by clicking below.
